A Principle of Human Nature

We humans are funny. That is to say, human nature is rather illogical. That is to say, common sense is not common.

One principle of human nature is, I think, this: We want guarantees, and if we don't get one, we manufacture one.

The folly in this is that when our manufactured guarantee is not met, when reality meets our manufactured reality, our manufactured reality shatters. Human nature reacts to this with all sorts of negative feelings.

It kind of goes back to that whole agency and fear thing. We create a script for someone, they don't follow it because they have agency, and we get all worked up.

We might do better to not manufacture scripts for people. Manufacturing a guarantee to be held in the responsibility of another is having an agenda for another. It is an attempt to control another. It is an attempt to remove that agency which we so deeply fear.